I'm not sure how/where I learned this lesson, but this is the lesson:
WHEN YOU ARE READY TO STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT
Did I learn it from my Mom; probaby...did I learn it from church; most likely; from God; most assuredly.
I'm not ready to stop being sad, but it's time to stop feeling sorry for myself. Best method? Do something for someone in need. Alright - honest truth here - I am the only one who feels resentful about not being sad/hurt/mad until I'm ready to stop feeling sad/hurt/mad? I'd feel like a complete heel if this were true, but I've raised 4 children; so I know that this is pretty universal.
A Story: Before I tell you about the need, I'm going to tell you a story about my son, Luke. Luke is generous to a fault, gives away everything. When Luke was younger I would send him on church camping trips to learn all those boy scout things. Being one of the few boys without a dad there, I always sent extra food, cause I didn't want him to run out of anything. As I dropped him off one Friday, I said, "Luke, you have tons of extra food, I expect you to come home with most of it, DO NOT GIVE IT ALL AWAY!!!". "LUKE I'M GOING TO BE REALLY MAD AT YOU IF YOU COME HOME WITHOUT ANY OF THAT EXTRA FOOD...DO YOU UNDERSTAND LUKE?" Wa wa wa...I probably sounded like Charlie Brown's teacher for all of my carrying on. Saturday evening rolls around, my son is dropped off at the church, with NO extra food, none at all. After an all too brief greeting I said, "you gave away the food didn't you?" "Yes, I gave it all away". "With all I told you, you gave it away?" "Yes, it's all gone; can I tell you why?" He said, 'I know you told me not to give it away, but there were 2 brothers there whose parents are getting divorced, each parent thought the other brought the food, but neither brought anything...the boys were starving Mom, they had nothing to eat; even knowing you'd be mad, how could I not feed them, when I had so much; he said "if you want to punish me, that's okay, I understand" That ended my career of trying to monitor what my son gave away...he being so much wiser than I.
The Need: Luke is in Iraq until February, and he is heartbroken about all the soldiers there that have no loved ones, no family members sending gifts, no one remembering them for the holidays. When I spoke to him recently, and asked what HE wanted for Christmas, he asked for thing for his troops...of course he did...what else would Luke do?
This is what I have in mind...if you have the ability, inclination, and would be interested, could you share something with our soldiers in Iraq? He was looking for boardgames, card games, video games if possible, maybe Christmas stocking stuffers, anything of the sort. He is some kind of administrative specialist, so he would receive it, and sort it for all of those in need.
Email me for his contact information [email protected]
If you would like to mail something without too much hassle, here's a great company that will mail for you to an APO address: Nuts for our Troops http://www.nutsonline.com/gifts/troops.html
Here's a little more about my son if you'd like to read about this volunteering adventures...I'm a little prejudice, but I think he is the best!!!
Thank you so much for the love & support these past few weeks!!! You are wonderful <3<3<3
Cherri